Being a military spouse means living in a unique world that doesn’t always make sense to people on the outside. It’s a life measured less by the normal up and down rhythm of life or the comforts found in familiarity and roots, and more so by countdowns, moves, deployments, homecomings, hard goodbyes, new beginnings and constant change. The military spouse embodies equal parts pride, chaos, resilience and humor developed purely for survival.
If you know, you know. And if you don’t, these sentence finishers might give you a glimpse into the beautifully unhinged, deeply meaningful reality of military spouse life. You know you’re a military spouse when…
- You have a paper chain made of 270 links draping across the perimeter of your entire living room.
- You can make a best friend in six months.
- Your plans revolve around the promised four-day weekends and block leave dates that you know may never happen.
- You bang the lid of the pasta jar with the back of a knife to get it open because “you don’t need no man” even though your husband is right in the other room.
- You start making up acronyms for every little thing like the shows you watch and the stores you shop at because, well, this just feels like a normal thing to do.
- Your child often asks, “Is Daddy at long work or short work?”
- You overuse the word “adventure” because it makes everything sound a little less scary.
- You own an entire wardrobe for every climate that exists in North America.
- Your whole day was unexpectedly taken up because you were “on the phone with TRICARE again.”
- You celebrate the days, not always the dates.
- You try to keep as many items as possible that you own tucked away in the black and yellow storage totes that take up an entire wall in your garage.
- You’ve learned all sorts of skills like hanging curtains, filling up tires, spraying wasp nests and mowing the lawn.
- Your worst nightmare is filling out a form that requires all past addresses.
- Your heart can live in two time zones at once.
- Your toddler calls the phone “Daddy.”
- You literally answer every question with “it depends.”
- You’re suspected of car theft because your car was purchased, registered and sold in three different states, all of which are different from the state on your driver’s license.
- You’re repeatedly asked where you’d like to live next, and then you’re often sent to the precise opposite place.
- You count down weeks by the number of trash nights left.
- You stand awkwardly at the gas station pump because you can’t remember your new ZIP code.
- You know your spouse’s social security number better than your own.
- Your toddler will run up to any man in uniform thinking it’s Daddy.
- Your PCM is booked up for approximately the next seven and a half months out.
- You get confused by the question “Where are you from?” and you second-guess yourself whenever you use the word “home” — because what even is that?
- Planning a baby at the perfect time is impossible.
- “Home” in your GPS is three addresses ago (or is this just me?).
Anyway, I could go on forever. Whether you chuckled, nodded along or felt seen in a way only another military spouse can understand, these moments are ours. They’re the stories we carry, the humor we cling to and the proof that even in the uncertainty, we’re stronger than we ever expected to be.
If you know, you know. And if you don’t — now you do.
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