What Milspouse Blogging Means to Me

What Milspouse Blogging Means to Me


Community. Something so many of us crave in this uncertain military lifestyle. Creating a sense of community. Joining a new community. Finding a community of like-minded people.

When you’re new to the military lifestyle, it’s kind of a big deal. Take for instance— me. Growing up, I did not know anyone in the military. Two of my uncles and my grandfather had served decades before I was born, but other than that, I barely knew the difference from one branch of Service to another. Yes, that’s embarrassing to say, but it is indeed true.

So when I started dating the wonderful man that would become my husband, I knew next to nothing about his profession and I had not yet established a community of others who were also new to military life. His first deployment was a mere six months after we first met. He was stationed over twelve hours away from where I lived, so I had little to no connection with anyone on his installation. Not to mention, I was his girlfriend, not fiancé or wife… so the information available to me was very scarce. Had I known then that there were people I could reach out to even though I was not yet a spouse, I would have done so earlier.

On my husband’s second deployment, we were still in a long-distance relationship. By then, I had met other girlfriends and spouses in his unit who had become my friends, but I still felt disconnected. Many of them were living on or near the installation and able to attend the fun events their unit had going on, whereas I was still far away and without the feeling of community I so desired.

Enter—blogging. To me, blogging is almost synonymous with community. I started a blog during my husband’s second deployment. I’ve always loved to write, but I didn’t begin blogging until I turned to the Internet and social media to find that missing connection. Lo and behold, there is an entire online community of military spouses. (This may seem obvious to some of you now, but as a newbie, I had no idea.) I found women sharing their daily lives as military spouses, fiancés, and girlfriends. From highs and lows to the little moments and big accomplishments, milspouses are blogging it. I did not hesitate to jump right in and start connecting with these people. It was just what I needed.

Even now that my husband is in garrison and we are finally living together on our installation, I still blog. I blog to reach out, share experiences, seek advice, and make new friends. It has become an integral part of my life, and my blog has evolved to become a tool to keep in touch with family and friends. I always get a kick out of it when I’m talking to one of my girlfriends on the phone and she says, “Oh I read about that on your blog!” It’s a shared connection to home and my milspouse friends.

There are many ways to find that missing connection as a military spouse, be it in person or through social media. Blogging is what worked for me and helped get me through deployment and living off the installation.  It may not be what works for you, or it may be your new favorite hobby. Reach out and connect in whatever way feels comfortable to you.

How have you found sense of community as a military spouse? If you had a blog, what would you write about? If yes, share in the comments below!

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  • Hi! I liked this post. I am about to move to Hawaii, completely across the country from where I live, to where my husband is stationed at. Anxiety is kicking in. I hope to feel a sense of community as a new military spouse. Do you have a personal blog? It’s so hard to find blogs that talk about what I am going through. Or maybe I am just not looking in the right place.

  • Dani says:

    Hi Michelle! I do have a personal blog. I’ve emailed the link to you. Thanks so much!